Hi Jenny,
My son is 31 months old. We started the Oh Crap Method at 25 months but he has such an aversion to the potty we had to do a reset. From then, every night , we would let him sit on the potty bottomless prior to him getting in the bath. Fast forward several months, he is now 31 months old.
We started on block one about a 6 days ago. He got it in a few hours! By the end of the day he was self initiating and even pooping. Same happened on day 2 of block 1. Basically a potty trained kid naked. No issues pooping. Went 4 times to poop that day.
Block 2 began on day 3. Resistance kicked in as mentioned in the book. He pees right through his pants. Id say some of the time he is aware because he will look down at his penis and saying ” im peeing” and other times he isnt. About half the time, he starts grabbing his crotch and doing a pee dance and says aloud ” no pee in pants”. I know he needs to go but when I take him to the potty he puts up a fight. Most times he fights and doesnt want to go. I do a little more light pushing and say ,” well lets try”, and start helping him push down his pants (he does know how to do it…for the most part, but only when he is NOT doing the potty). He will sometimes let me do this and then he pees in the potty. Other time he flat out resists and says NO, has a mini melt down. I leave it be and say, ” Ok, you let me know when you are ready . the potty is over there.” During the times I catch him peeing through his pants, I say” hold it honey, lets go to the potty”. He and I both push down his pants and he sits on the potty to finish the rest of the pee ,if there is anything left in there ( sometimes there is , sometimes there isnt).
He is also holding in his urine longer. Staying dryer longer since we restarted this process.With some of that background, here are some questions:
1) Should I go back to a day or go for a few hours a day at a time naked since he seems clueless half the time and the other half he isnt
2)My mother in law watches him 2 days a week while I work, we are encouraging her to go commando as long as possible, bit if she does a mostly naked day, will it harm any learning ? She is older and I dont want to lose my free babysitting. I know she will try to do commando, but im saying maybe half the day if she needs a break as she cant watch him like a hawk like I will. He is potty trained naked only.
3)How often do you prompt in block 2? He holds his pee anywhere for 1 hr to 2 hrs now. After the seal breaks then he will pee non stop.
4) If he resists my prompt, do I let it be and hand over the power to him still? Even though he is clearly needing to pee. The minute he is naked he will potty.
5)He has pooped in his pants in block 2.
6) Each time he pees in his pants, i say after” Oh, no pee in the pants, pee goes in the potty. Push your pants down, sit on the potty and pee.” When I go to the restroom, I let him watch me and have him instruct me. He tells me the order in which to potty (pants down, sit, pee). Do I need to pump more fluids still like in block 1?
7)Any other tips? Does his behavior sound like normal progression ? Am I doing anything wrong that I should alter? Im trying to not overprompt. I dont really hover. Im in the kitchen doing my thing but keeping a watchful eye. I may or may not be….trying to figure it out. I definitely was when he was 25 months old lol. No scolding ever. Just a matter of fact tone when he pees in his pants. Im going through 10 pants a day. Today is day 5 on block 2.
Thanks!
Janine
